how do i get my child to listen to me?

by gurumommy on July 20, 2010

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Since we only have 1 child home most of this summer, we seem to be focusing most of our time disciplining her (at 4-1/2 years old it’s about time!).  I recently had a chance to sit down with Betsy Brown Braun, our gurumommy parenting expert and author of the popular book, You’re Not the Boss of Me! to ask her, “how do i get my child to listen to me?”

So how do we get our child to listen? Listening is not the problem. The problem is that your child is not being compliant, not doing what you are asking him to do or not to do. There is no one-size-fits-all answer. You, however, need to grow some credibility, otherwise known as backbone.

What do we do if they ignore this? Position yourself deliberately, right in front of your child and not across the room from your child. State your request clearly, being very specific in your expectations.

And if this isn’t working? Explain the consequence for non-compliance, giving just one warning. Give him a moment to comply, and when he doesn’t, lower the boom (impose the related consequence.) Repeated and hollow threats create children who don’t listen.

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