staying present with your kids

by gurumommy on January 15, 2013

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This article, written by Elaine Bauer Brooks of, wrote this funny article in HuffPost about ‘staying present with your kids while multi-tasking’:  ‘This morning, my two kids and I had one of our “car talks” on the way to school [Side Bar: "car talks" are like singing in the shower... facing forward and bracing the wheel with my crew strapped in behind me, I'm like the captain of the ship -- the leader of our little "car country" -- i.e. I'm totally brilliant.]. Anyway, on this day, my 8-year-old-son asked me a question. I don’t know… it was something about what the president likes to eat for breakfast or why mountain lions don’t have wings. The question was sneakily attached to the end of a long stream of consciousness, during which my mind had wandered. I guess I didn’t answer right away because he then asked, “Mommy, why do I always have to repeat the question every time I ask you something?” I snapped back into the moment pausing only for about a millisecond before launching into my defense, conveniently rationalizing the cause and minimizing the regularity because I’m “mommy” and I can. I think my answer was something fairly lame like, “Ummm… well… mommies have a lot of very important, loose ideas to keep track of.”

I mean, really? “Loose ideas?” This sweet thing was trying to ask a very important question. If there had been a mountain lion or presidential chef in the room, he would have been on pins and needles waiting for the answer. But I was only barely listening so I gave my lame, defensive answer. Was I lying? No… In my multi-tiered role as editor of my blog, The List Collective, school volunteer, freelance writer, wife, sister, daughter, friend and most importantly, assistant to Asher and Leni Brooks, my mind is constantly swirling with disparate details, deadlines and to-dos. Like all of us, we have more places to go than there is time to get there, more things to do than there is man power to do them and a bunch of dreams on our “wish lists,” for which we still reserve mental energy. It’s truly mind-numbing. But mastery, for me, like any recovering type A executive or Supermom, remains the prize… and I’m so convincing when I tell myself that it’s within reach, that I keep trying. I’m nothing if not tenacious.”

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